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It's a question I hear often: 'How can I, as a man, be a better ally to women?' It's a fantastic question, and one that deserves a thoughtful response, not just platitudes. While I frequently speak to predominantly female audiences, I always appreciate the presence of men who genuinely want to understand and contribute to a more equitable world.

Let's be clear: being an ally isn't about pats on the back or claiming moral high ground. It's about consistent, active support, and a willingness to challenge the status quo, even when it's uncomfortable.

Beyond the Basics: Moving Past Performative Allyship

Many men start with the basics – acknowledging gender inequality, avoiding sexist jokes, and generally being polite. While these are important foundations, they're not enough. True allyship requires deeper engagement.

Here’s a breakdown of actionable steps men can take:

• Listen and Learn: Really listen to women's experiences. Don’t interrupt, don’t offer unsolicited advice, just hear them out. Read books, articles, and blogs by women from diverse backgrounds. Understand the systemic issues at play, not just individual stories.
• Challenge Your Own Biases: We all have biases, conscious or unconscious. Actively work to identify and dismantle yours. This is an ongoing process. Consider taking implicit bias tests and reflecting on your behaviours and assumptions.
• Speak Up: Don’t be a bystander. When you witness sexism, harassment, or discrimination, speak up. This can be as simple as calling out a sexist joke or challenging a biased assumption. Be prepared to face discomfort – it’s part of the process.
• Amplify Women's Voices: Don't let women have to fight for their voices to be heard. Use your platform to amplify their perspectives, share their work, and promote their achievements.
• Support Women Leaders: Actively seek out and support women in leadership positions, both professionally and in your community. Mentor young women and advocate for their advancement.
• Recognize Male Privilege: Understand that you benefit from a system that advantages men. Acknowledge this privilege and use it to advocate for change.

It's Not About You

A crucial point: being an ally isn't about being seen as a 'good guy'. It's about supporting women and creating a more equitable world for everyone. Don't centre yourself in the conversation. Let women lead the way and follow their guidance.

The Ongoing Journey

Becoming an ally is not a destination; it’s a lifelong journey. It requires ongoing self-reflection, learning, and action. Be open to feedback, be willing to admit when you're wrong, and keep striving to be better. The effort is worth it. A more equitable world benefits everyone.