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Alison Beatty's story is a heartbreaking reminder of the silent struggles many mothers face. Her adult son, experiencing a severe 48-hour schizophrenic episode, violently assaulted her within the walls of their family home, throwing her against a wall with considerable force. What followed was a devastating period of dismissal and disbelief, leaving Alison feeling unheard and unsupported.

The trauma didn't end with the initial assault. Upon using the bathroom later, Alison discovered blood in her urine, a chilling indication of the internal injuries she sustained. Despite this alarming sign, and her persistent complaints of pain and distress, her concerns were repeatedly downplayed. She recalls being told she was 'overreacting' and even labelled as 'hysterical' – a deeply hurtful and invalidating response to a serious physical assault.

Alison's experience highlights a concerning pattern: the tendency to dismiss women’s pain, particularly when it involves family members. The societal expectation that mothers must be strong and resilient often leads to their own suffering being overlooked. The stigma surrounding mental illness further complicates matters, as it can make it difficult for victims of abuse to be taken seriously, especially when the perpetrator is struggling with a condition like schizophrenia.

The situation escalated dramatically when Alison finally collapsed. This alarming event served as a stark wake-up call, forcing those around her to acknowledge the severity of her condition and the trauma she had endured. She was finally given the medical attention she desperately needed, but the emotional scars of the ordeal remain.

Alison's story isn't just about her individual experience; it's a call for greater awareness and empathy. It's a plea for families and communities to recognise the signs of elder abuse, to support victims without judgment, and to understand the complexities of mental illness. It also underscores the importance of taking all reports of assault seriously, regardless of the relationship between the parties involved. Alison bravely shared her story to prevent others from suffering the same fate, hoping to inspire change and provide a voice for those who feel unheard.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or elder abuse, please reach out for help. Resources are available – you are not alone.