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Aussie sisters – a tale as old as time, right? Well, this one’s got a twist. I'm wondering if I completely bungled things by not inviting my sister’s new boyfriend to my small, intimate birthday dinner. Let me explain...

My sister, let's call her Sarah, has been seeing this guy, Mark, for about four months now. It’s a pretty serious thing, from what I’ve gathered. They seem really happy, and he’s been welcomed into the family – at least, for most events. My birthday rolled around recently, and I decided to keep it super low-key. Just a handful of close friends and family at a nice restaurant. Nothing big, no fuss.

Now, I didn't *actively* exclude Mark. It just… didn't seem right to include him in such a small, personal gathering. I wanted it to be a genuine celebration with the people I’ve known and loved for years. I wasn’t trying to be mean or anything, honestly. I figured four months isn’t exactly a lifetime, and I wasn't ready to integrate a new partner into my closest circle just yet. A bit selfish, maybe?

However, Sarah is absolutely livid. She says I deliberately excluded him and that it was incredibly rude and disrespectful. She’s accusing me of trying to sabotage her relationship and make her feel insecure. Seriously? I'm genuinely hurt by her reaction. I tried to explain my reasoning, that it was about the intimacy of the dinner and not about Mark himself, but she wouldn't hear it.

I ended up going to the dinner solo, feeling a bit awkward and guilty. The conversation was quiet, to say the least. I kept glancing at my phone, expecting a barrage of angry texts from Sarah, but nothing came. It's left me feeling really confused and wondering if I've made a huge mistake.

Reddit, am I the a-hole here? Was it wrong of me to not invite my sister’s boyfriend to my birthday dinner, even though it was a small, intimate affair? I'm desperate for some unbiased opinions because my sister is currently on the warpath!

I value family above all else, and the thought of damaging my relationship with Sarah over this is devastating. I'm hoping to find a way to smooth things over and explain myself properly. Any advice on how to navigate this sticky situation would be greatly appreciated.